Two sides.

There are two sides to every story and although its hard to have an unbiased opinion on a situation you’re directly involved with, I really do try.

Despite the fact I resent him for doing what he did and the way he did it, I cant imagine how hard it probably was for him. The dumper gets all of the blame for being an asshole, a quitter, a lying piece of shit… ehem… what I mean to say is that they have a burden too. When the relationship is going well, but something just isn’t quite right or you’re not going in the same direction anymore, the tension between you will only grow as you start resenting each other for certain sacrifices and compromises. Someone needs to be the one to say, “hey, this isn’t going to work anymore.”

But its hard to just come out and do that, when is it ever the right time? certainly not a week after a holiday I just paid for *hint Ex hint*. seriously though, you become torn between hurting someone you love/used to love, or holding back your own life. I’ve never been the dumper before, but I can only imagine how miserable it must be to feel like you cant move forward for fear of hurting someone else.

From what I’ve read, the dumper feels the pain before the breakup and the dumpee feels it after. Its like a pain share scheme, and it will probably be the last thing you share together.

So, after the breakup, they will seem so relived that it will be infuriating. look at them, living their life and doing fun stuff and shit, I must have been such a burden to them… but you weren’t, the relationship was. This isn’t personal, this is never personal… even when they blatantly come out and say “I hate you as a person.” harsh dude… but that’s their problem still! You can be the sweetest peach in the basket, but at the end of the day, someone is going to hate peaches, its not the peaches fault.

We started dating when I was 19, and the early 20’s is when people really start to figure themselves out… so any relationship over that period will be tested hard…

I’m trying to end this on a positive note from his side of the story… but I’m just so annoyed at him today for some reason. I don’t know why though, but I get this feeling he is telling people about all the “stupid crap” I’ve said with no context, just to make himself seem like less of an asshole for breaking it off, since I didn’t do anything crazy during the breakup period… unless he finds out about this blog and I will seem completely insane…